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Adultery Blog - How to Catch A Cheater > Cheating Adultery > Tips For Making Good Decision - Dealing With The Affair Tips:
Don't make your decision when you're still reeling. Take your time.
Judge your life together, not by how you feel today but by how you've felt about it in the past.
You need to work out what you want. Not only look at how you feel about the affair, but the state of the relationship before. Were you ready to leave anyway? Or were you happy enough then to want to try again now.
Be slightly wary of friends' and relatives' views as they might have their own agenda.
You need to find out what he wants. Does he want the relationship to work or has he given up? You have to calmly talk this through to find out the truth.
It is best to confront your doubts and fears about recommitting by yourself. In the presence of your partner, you're more likely to defend your position than challenge it or own up to the errors in your thinking.
Sometimes, the partner is willing to make some changes you have been pleading for. These changes may seem promising at first, but only to find later that these promises can not be kept.
You may worry that you are staying for the wrong reasons.
Some of you may think you should keep your distance from your partner and not be too loving until you know for certain whether you want to get back together.
Don't listen too closely and literally to your partner's insults.
Try to go beyond your partner's words and hear the hurt behind them.
Counseling may be beneficial to both of you.
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