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by Theresa on 3/8
my husband has left over two years and won't file for a divorce and tells me how he had sex with someone and then came home and had sex with me.
This made me sick I have three children and don't have money for a divorce and he know this is how he keeps me trap help I been with him for 25 yrs
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by sexxy, replying to Theresa on 23-Nov-06 03:51 PM
GIRLLLLLLLLLL, 1. HOW DARE HE TELLS YOU OF THE OTHER WOMEN AND HOW HE HAD SEX WITH HER AND COME HOME AND HAVE SEX WITH YOU, HAVE YOU EVER HEARD OF ADS, WE ALL HEARD OF THAT, YOU CAN FILE FOR DIVOCRE, GO TO THE COURT HOUSE ASK QAUESTIONS WHERE EVER YOU STAY, THIS MAN DON'T LOVE YOU, CAUSE IT SEEMS ALL HE WANT TO DO IS HURT YOU, THAT IS WHAT'S WRONG WITH US WOMEN'S THESE DAYS, WE THINK WITH OUT A MEN IN OUR LIFE WE CAN'T DO IT OR GO ON, AND THAT IS HOW THEY THINK OF US TOO, NO YOU KEEP YOUR SELF TRAP, NOT HIM, CAUSE YOU CAN FILE FOR YOUR DIVOCRE, CAN I ASK A QUESTION HOW OLD ARE YOUR KIDS, IF THEY ARE OLD ENOUGH TO BE PUT IN DAY CARE, GET A JOB, SAVE UP, MOVE OUT, DON'T FEEL LIKE I'M JUST SAYING THESE, CAUSE I KNOW IT'S HARD, I HAVE 1 CHILD AND IT'S HARD SOMETIMES, BUT YOU HAVE TO DO IT, CAUSE WHAT HE IS GOING TO DO IS BRING SOME TYPE OF STD HOME TO YOU AND WHEN YOUR DEAD AND GONE, WHO WILL SUFFER, YOUR 3 KIDS, NOT HIM CAUSE HE WILL BE HAVING FUN WITH THE OTHER GIRL, SO SET AND THINK, WHAT'S THE NEXT MOVE IN YOUR LIFE AND ALSO YOUR KIDS LIFE, CAUSE THEY NEED YOU, NOT HIM
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by lilian, replying to Theresa on 10-Mar-06 03:21 AM
Doesn't anyone teach girls how to pick a man?
I am sure that you girls out there had more than one guy interested in going steady or marrying you, so why do you always pick wrong men ?
Go to Sterling Weekends, The psychologist Justin Sterling teaches men and women how to pick a spouse.
If you pick a cheater that is who you will have to put up with, he wont change.
Men dont change, they are fully formed in their habits and their sexual style in their early 20s. They will stay the same, but you will have to change, Women are more changable and adjustable.
If the "lover" quality was what attracted you to your man he will remain a lover, but not only to you, how did you think he became like that in the first place ?
If you get a workaholic he will be a good provider, but he will probably suck in bed. I got one of those, but it is better than being poor and cheated on. No one or no thing can prevent men from cheating if they have that urge. 80% of men cheat, it is the evolutionary drive to copulate with as many women as possible to ensure the race survival.
Men will cheat less if a woman is subservient and sweet and boost their EGO. Never refuse sex to your man, always be inventive and keep your body in a good shape.
If you smoke and over eat you will soon look like shit and he will for sure look for another woman
Lilian.
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by ladydabs, replying to lilian on 14-Aug-06 11:53 AM
You don't know what the HELL you are talking about!
I am married, been married for 31 years and my husband always thought cheating was wroung, guess what he had an affair.
He hit mid life and freaked out. We are know working things out. I believe marriage is forever, in good times and bad. He has stopped seeing her and I know that was hard too. The OP was the girl he wanted to marry when he was younger, but she dear Johned him im Nam. I know he never really got over that. No one promises us a rose garden, it hurts like hell. Trust is gone. But love isn't.
He's told her it's over and they have stayed friends.
I don't like her nor do I trust her or him. I hoping with time he'll see what he did and realize you can't live your life over again, there is no going back. I made a vow and God said to forgive so I will. Time heals all wounds.
I won't destoy my family or my marriage and let her have him. Sometimes affairs happen because of a hardship and you needed someone to talk with and before you know it the affair has happened.
I know she played him. He is slowly seeing it to. There is hope.Being married to a person that prefers to work than being home, is really no different than having an affair.
Except his mistress is work!
So how is your marriage any better, when he rathor work than be with you. Shouldn't throw stones at glass houses!
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by Diamond on 1/19
I want to work things out with my husband but when I confronted him with cheating he denied it. I have asked him to switch cells phones with me but he refuses (that makes me feel like he's still cheating).
I have recently obtained he cell phone bill on line and he doesn't know it...
I have seen calls on there from the person he is cheating with. I have seen him make changes like staying at home more and making statements like I'm trying to get is right I really am. But when he says that it's like out of context for example when he made that statement we were not discussing about him cheating.
We have a 3 month old son an 2 older children before marriage and I don't want to turn their lives up side down. Should I just be more patient and check the bill again next month.
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by Tina on 12/18
MY BOYFRIEND OF TWO YEARS NOW HAS CHEATED ON ME SEVERAL TIMES IN THE PAST AND ALL THOUGH HE DOESNT SEEM TO BE ANYMORE I AM STILL FINDING MYSELF INSECURE AND JEALOUS AND DONT KNOW HOW TO OVERCOME MY SOMETIMES VERY STRESSFUL FEELINGS TOWARDS HIM.HE HAS APOLOGIZED WITH SINCERITY AND IS DOING EVERYTHING TO PROVE TO ME THAT HE WILL NOT DO IT AGAIN BUT IM THE ONE WHO SOMETIMES JUST WANT THE RELATIONSHIP TO END. HELP I NEED ADVICE!
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by katrina, replying to Tina on 18-Dec-05 12:27 PM
FIRST OF ALL EVERYONE KNOWS ITS ALWAYS A GOOD THING TO LEARN TO FORGIVE BUT KEEP IN MIND THAT YOU CAN FORGIVE AND MOVE ON WITHOUT FEELING OBLIGATED TO STAY IN THE RELATIONSHIP AFTER YOU HAVE FORGIVING THE PERSON.
THROUGH GOD ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLLE AND GO TO HIM FOR GUIDANCE REGARDLESS OF WHAT YOUR FEELING.
GOD KNOWS BEST.
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